We should think of the well-considered and balanced measures of our communication approach in the world, as valuable assets of the mind.
The harrowing process of human distress creates naturally ingenious distractions that orientate our social conduct to a neutral zone.
One of these distractions is the mighty gossip that could be presented in its anthropological form as a raw, uneducated, brutal, rough, salicious and malicious , but charming courtesan.
The gossip, also called tattling or dishing contains two facets of the notion: a grinding part that perverts a person's reputation and a cooperative part that engages the extravagance of his/her deed in the congeniality context.
Gossip represents a form of psychological riot meant to ease our fits of anger and transform them into an euphemistic metaphors of hostility.
Gossip holds therapeutic characteristics of purging the mind in order to surpass our thoughts' turmoil until they are scattered in various directions, being shattered into less belligerent ones.
It is gossip that is responsible of the removal of our mind heaviness, weaving intricate structures of events prone to disseminate their treacherous substance into a diluted amusement .
Gossip encapsulates the sweet retaliation against our accidental or hypothetical enemies or other human beings, susceptible to the deep seated feeling of aversion.
The practice of gossip glides cunningly between the two extreme reactions that occur when a personal event caught the public eye. This informal escape, an unspoken truce between two parts is pending, moving from the person who delivers the information about the event subjected to the general analysis to the receiver, the recipient that either manifests interest and confidence or disbelief and indifference.
But there is also a silent talker, an invisible participant to the happening, the third part who actually is the protagonist of the occurrence who stirred the others' attention.
In this context, truth doesn't represent a matter of importance. The only curiosity that captivates the audience is spinning around the unfamiliarity of fact. Everything unusual, irrespective of its goodness or badness attracts us into a existential farce. From ancient times, we have had a voracious appetite for jokes, tricks and mistification so, gossip encloses a little bit of all above mentioned in conjunction with the lies and the softened ill wishes.
Our primordial tendency to lie represents the psychological foundation of the gossip. The substance of the gossip oscillates from truth to lie in a theatrical appearance. Gossip doesn't care about dignity , but about the perishable wonders of humour. Its farcical emergence fights against the stiffness of the society in a mischievous smoothness.
Gossip embraces the intriguing sap of the mythical lies, breaking the social silence into an emotional blast of beautiful and nonsensical paradigms of the immediate communication.
It offers a welcoming warm up when people don't know each other very well or a strengthening bond between friends or old acquaintances. Gossip resolves in no time the communication gaps that throw uncomfortable distances between interlocutors.
This treacherous and instable pattern of communication explores different ways of creating tempered reactions when the spirits of the participants will be inflated and the passion will rule.
Gossiping confers the liberty of wondering about in the free zone of your mind. It represents an authentic grinder of emotions destined to put our worries at ease without authorship of reason and morality.
it is neither good or bad, it is just a skillfully crafted mischievous escape that activates our appetite to unknown, to what is forbidden and scandalous. It is actually our desire to be seen, to be defiant no matter how immoral it is to stand out in the crowd.
In fairness, the more immoral it is, the more alluring it will be! It is nevertheless a trap in which most of us long to fall , but few dare to do it. By practising gossip, we redirect our heavy thoughts to an unmined field of judgmental ornaments of our mind that focuses on somebody else's destiny.
This is the way we gain the ability of getting detached from our own emotional garbage, becoming mere spectators of other people's lives' assymmetries.
Gossip is made out of magmatic churns of rumours that stir our curiosity in order to succeed in making unrealistic comparison with other human beings' experiences.
Our tendency to imitate, judge and compare encapsulates the interest we manifest towards the smudged place of the humanity, to our poorly attended secrecy.
It forms a rewarding relief, because we don't have to deal with ourselves anymore, at least for a while. Gossip could be liberating if you know when to stop. In the beginning, gossip is a noisy whimsicality, a histrionic role-play, an incongruent debate, a journey into other people's lives, in their sinful trajectories, scrutinising that infractionality of our morality.
So, this is the right part of the gossip, where lessons are taught. When common sense and amusement is over, gossip turns itself into a pure belligerent chat where jealousy and scorn reign. Gossip is loud, it is the outer voice heard in the bustle of the world, in the very hum of our existence.
The uncertain and erratic nature of gossip attracts our proneness to mystery. Gossip represents an imperial mistrust in ourselves that explores other ways of tackling our personal problems, being above them, mirroring ourselves into other people's minds, conversing uncertainties into improbable curiosities, feeding our insatiable ego.
Used with parcimony, gossip could use the sublime uselessness of the rumours, hearsays and half truths in a chatartic way.
Others' rambling tales fill our mind with justifications for our own questionable deeds, depriving us from boredom.
Gossip is the prying ich, an impulse of mischievousness, a reason break and nonchalant display of preconceptions, a story within a story and a metabolised lie or a disconcerting truth.
In old times, there was even a goddess of gossip. Pheme (“fame” or “rumor” in English) was her name. She was the last daughter of the goddess Gaia. She was depicted as a terrible winged creature who delighted in ruffling her feathers.
,,Beneath every feather there was a prying eye, a pricked ear and a wagging tongue. She flew from place to place at great speed, gabbling and screeching lies and half-truths to any person who would listen".
Thus, after all, good or bad, gossip is a play, an alternative reality, a way of gaining fame for the silent participant and an indignant response for the things we cannot have or for the actions we cannot do, even if we long for them ardently.
So enjoy it, as an emphatic substitute for liberty, if you are not prepared for getting banned on morality grounds ! Or stand out, take your chance, earn your infamous fame, be a silent participant to the intricate lace of gossip!
Practise gossip in style to entertain your mind, but harm none!
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